Reality check for the holidays

by kath_red on 23/12/2011

in Holidays

In this crazy time of year it’s pretty easy to get carried away with over doing everything – trying to get everything just right – trying to make sure to finish everything on your to-do list – trying to make everyone happy – trying to be the perfect mother / wife / sister / friend… and in all this trying it is really easy to forget what is actually important about this time of year  – this time of year is about family, being together, celebrating your beliefs and your traditions in a loving and nurturing way. It’s about happiness and thankfulness — a time to put aside grudges and ‘issues’ and to just spend time with those you love the best.

So my tips for surviving and enjoying the next couple of weeks of frivolity, celebrations and traditions are to take a step back from your plans and assess what is really important to you — your sanity and time with family might be at the top of that list — so you might have to ditch those plans for perfectly wrapped homemade presents and just realise that you are human and can only do so much.

This year we have actually decided as a family that we are not going to be doing the whole present thing (much) and instead have opted for a whole family experience instead (a weekend in the big city with the Harry Potter exhibition and a hotel) to enjoy a little later in the year when the craziness dies down. The kids will have a little something under the tree each — just one or two things (a book, a board game, a special teacup) and Rob and I have opted to go shopping together after the holidays to buy each other a much needed new wallet. We will also all be making each other something — but again something that is not going to take a lot of time — just love — a little something to not get stressed about … my it is so easy to get caught up in what must be done rather than what you all really actually want to do – isn’t it?

So what will you be crossing off your list?

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1 Lisa J December 23, 2011 at 8:40 am

I love how you’re approaching the holidays. It should be about taking a moment to truly appreciate being together. I think we do put so much pressure on ourselves, thanks for pointing it out so eloquently.

Happy Holidays to you and yours.

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2 CindyW December 23, 2011 at 10:38 am

Love this. We don’t have kiddos yet, but we’ve agreed to forego most of the traditional cookies this year, and to give each other gifts during the twelve days of Christmas rather than needing to have everything ready for the 25th. I’m finishing a dissertation (!!!), and we just need time to sit and be still and soak in the season.

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3 Liz Noonan December 23, 2011 at 10:57 am

I really like the idea of having an experience as a family for a gift. My husband and I usually buy something we really want or need for the home on our anniversary or xmas. This year I cam down with a really bad infection that had me bedridden for a few days. That forced me to give up on all the “stuff”. It is a gift really, because I know I don’t have to create the perfect Christmas for my family, they are happy no matter what I do and at least we are healthy!
Happy Holidays Kathreen!

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4 Kirstin December 23, 2011 at 12:51 pm

Baking cookies. It is not happening for Christmas this year. We will pick some up today or tomorrow so my boys can leave a treat for Santa.
When my folks are in town a week from know, perhaps the kids will bake a batch of cookies with their Grandma. [Note a batch - not 7 recipes and dozens and dozens of cookies filling every container we can find in the house!]

Thanks for this very important reminder and reality check, and Happy Holidays!

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5 Jeri Coleman December 24, 2011 at 1:46 pm

My husband is a merchant seaman. Sadly, he will be away from us this Christmas and New Year’s day. My teen-aged son, daughter and I are spending the holidays together quietly and humbly. Each of the kids prepared thoughtful gifts for each other which they will exchange Christmas eve.
We will do something special together as a famliy when Dad gets home in mid January and in the mean time our motto is K.I.S.S. Keep It Simple Stupid.

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